Menstruation "A Taboo"

It feels sad that in todays time and in so called educated class we still make our daughters feel inferior about themselves when it comes to explaining them about menstruation. 

I was saddened when one day my lil girl asked me, "Mom why we are impure during periods", I was taken aback because, firstly she has not got periods as yet and what I have explained to her about it, Is  not what she was asking from me.I sat with her and tried to understand the source of this sick information  and to my utter displeasure it comes from her friend and who in turn has been fed this information by her parents.

why cant we educate our  girls to understand this physiological change in more scientific way. Why do we have to attach taboo to this physiological change and make it look abnormal. Why do we tell them that talking about Sanitary napkin in front of people is shame. Do we tell our boys that talking about shaving is Sin  or shameful, that is also a physiological change. Why do we tell them that its big sin to pray to God when they are going through menstrual cycle. Rather we should educate them about the changes and implication of menstruation cycle in positive manner so that our lil girls feel good about this transition.

We in todays time should shun away from the age old tradition of not praying, not going to temple during periods .It might have been necessary during those times as hygiene and sanitary facilities were not so good. But it does not hold true in todays time.

Our girls are Angels, don't make them feel small by attaching taboo to the most important transition of their life.



 

Life , A roller coaster

Sam and Sara a young beautiful couple, like any other couple of big Cities were working hard to carve out promising & attractive carriers for themselves. Sara was very ambitious lady wanted to achieve whole world for her, She had the desire as well as capabilities to make things happen for her.

Sam on the other hand definitely wanted lucrative carrier but was a very family oriented guy, For him the special little moments with family were more important to him.Sam and Sara got married to each other against family wishes after being with each other for over a decade. Yes, they had known each other from adolescence. The liking for each other grew into fondness and love.

First few years went off very well, they were living a dreamlife, and people said they were the perfect couple made for each other.

It was their 4th wedding anniversary and Sara was very excited and nervous .Sam had told her that on this anniversary he is going to ask her for something which he has been wanting for very long desperately .She was undergoing mixed emotions, what is that Sam wants from her? and if she can do that for Sam or not? She always wanted Sam to be happy.

Sam had planned for beautiful evening. He had organized a romantic dinner along pool side at one of the best Hotels in the Town. Poolside was all decorated with white flowers, it was her favorite colour, Sam was eagerly awaiting Sara, and yes the moment had come, He saw Sara walking toward him. She was looking beautiful as ever. Her dazzling smile brightened everything around her. She hugged & kissed him & slowly whispered “Happy Anniversary Honey”. Sam hugged her tightly, Both of them sat down admiring each other.

Things were going as Sam had planned, Sara was very happy, Soon the maître d'hôtel came up with beautiful cake with their wedding picture on it.Sara was enthused, she thought to herself, how thoughtful Sam has been. And as they were cutting the cake, The music started playing wishing them all very best in life. Tears started rolling down from Sara’s eye, she could not believe all this and she thanked Sam with her chocked voice.

As the romantic evening moved on ,Sara looked into Sam’s eyes and enquired that what he wishes from her on this beautiful day. Sam knew that it would not be easy for Sara So he first thanked Sara for a very lovely life together and then added that He wanted her replica in his arms.Sara realized Sam was talking about the baby. Sam had longed for this quite long but Sara was not prepared for it, She wanted to wait for some more time but she didn’t wanted to disappoint him at the same time . So they concluded the beautiful evening agreeing that its time to extend family. Sam was in the moment of ecstasy.

It was sunny morning of April and Sam was walking frantically in the hospital lobby .Sara had been complaining of labor pains the whole night & was admitted to Hospital for delivery. Soon the nurse came out and broke good news of birth of his baby girl to him.
Sam was very happy & started jumping with Joy. He had been waiting for this moment for very long .He went into the room to see Sara, Both of them looked into each others eyes and then looked at their little angel. It was moment of extreme pleasure for them.

Few days passed by, Every thing was fine, Sam was happy, but there was something which was bothering Sara, She sought to go back to work, She had worked hard to be at the position she was. In the Evening while having a cup of Coffee, She told Sam that she would like to resume her work, Sam was shocked , their daughter, Sasha, was only a month old ,how can Sara think of going for work but Sara was adamant. So both of them decided to arrange governess for their daughter.

Sara thought this arrangement will work well, Few months passed by, all seemed to be going on well, but no, Sam was not at all happy, He felt that their daughter needed mother and not the governess. It started getting ugly with both of them, Sam accusing Sara of not being a good mother & Sara accusing Sam on forcing motherhood on her.

Things went so bad that both of them decided to part their ways as it was getting, tough & ugly. As expected, Sasha stayed with Sam.

It was not easy for Sam, He was left with no choice but to go back to his parent,Sam was trying to muster courage as he was standing in front of his parents house holding Little Sasha in his arms, He was not sure how will he face his parents, He had not been in touch with them from the time he got married. With lot of courage he rang the door bell; soon he could hear the sound of footsteps approaching the door.

It was his Mom, She had grown old, Both looked into each others eyes, Many emotions were exchanged but without any grudges or questions he was welcomed into house,Time passed by ,Sasha grew into a beautiful young lady,She Got married and got settled in her life. Sam Missed chirpy smile of Sasha a lot, he felt very lonely, His parents had passed away few years back. Sara also was living a very lonely life. Both of them though separated never were happy without each other. They had been craving to be with each other for all these years and now they needed each other the most.

Sam knew Sara would never call him up & say that She wants to be back, In hearts of hearts she was guilty of wrong decision .So Sam called Sara one fine morning. Sara was shocked and at the same time delighted. Sam didn’t say anything, it was long pause, and Sara said Sam I want to come back. This is what both of them had sought.Sam was delighted & He was sure of a beautiful life again
with Sara.
And as said in fairy tales they lived happily ever after.

Her Priceless Smile

Its her smile which is priceless, while walking down the memory lane, I never saw smirk on her face.She never groaned ,Her admiration & assurance made me believe much more in myself than I ever thought of myself.

Years have passed & today I am very much at the same juncture of life, where I feel, Can I smile and not smirk like my Mom, Moms are Moms but Can I be like my Mom, The quest is on!!

Small diminutive things made her happy& translated into ecstasy. My little success made her smile with pride ,In my big failures she was the biggest support, The strength & confidence shown by her in my abilities was magical.

Time has passed &today is the time for role reversals, The support I desired then, is what she wishes today .The smile she had altruistically given me, I should be showering on her.

Mom many times, I fight with you, I disagree with you, I go mad on you, but that does not mean that I don’t love you.

I love you, adore you, respect you, I want to be your strength, your support .In small little words Mom I want to be your Mom now.

Love U Ma

Expectations

Since ages ,we some or the other day try to soothe our emotions ,when we are hurt saying, we should not have had these expectations,It would have been easy otherwise ,But is it really so simple ,no not at all ,otherwise pearls from our eyes would not slide so easily.

I thought about it & then realised, this is more bookish than practical ,had the world run on no expectations theory the lovely human bond would not have existed ,Thewomen would have never given birth to child,she does it with lots of expectations of enjoying & reliving her own childhood,

There are so called intellectuals who say one should have controlled expectation ,Can some one suggest me a barometre to measure this.

I belive there is nothing wrong in having expectations,all relationships have an element of expectation. just do not over run it,

So next time if you have some expectation don't hold yourself guilty,speak your heart,It will strengthen your bond in any relationship ,be it personal or professional.